Defining Success

defining success

How do you go about defining success?

Is it the ownership of a fast car, a massive home, a great family, celebrity status or untold riches?

One or all of those might be pat answers that a lot of people would likely give.

But the truth is more personal than that.

In 2008 I was suffering from depression, though I didn’t know it at the time. Each day I woke up angry with myself, with my family, I hated my business, heck I even hated the world.

It wasn’t like I was blaming everyone else for the situation I was in, with a failing business that was taking its toll on my relationship with my family.

It was more that I seemed unable to achieve the things in life that I thought I should have, including all of the above. I felt that no matter how much I wanted to be successful, I lacked the resources to get there.

I had just about given up.

That was when I made a discovery.

It was a discovery that quickly changed my life and put me back on the track to success. If you can relate to that feeling of hopelessness, of not being able to achieve what you dream of, whatever is holding you back I can tell you, 100%, that you can reach for success and grasp it.

Here’s what I discovered…

As we’ve seen, most people have the wrong idea about what it means to be successful. Here’s the first thing you’ll see if you type ‘define success’ into Google:

the accomplishment of an aim or purpose

Nothing there about material things, relationships or riches.

Read it again…

the accomplishment of an aim or purpose

In that case success is down to achieving your aim or purpose. Whatever aim you desire, or whatever purpose you are chasing, it is going to be different to mine or anyone else’s in the world.

In that case you get to define your own success. Forget about listening to what everybody else thinks – you get to decide for yourself what success means.

What I’m really saying is forget about living up to other’s expectations. It is always those that weigh you down.

It is you that gets to dictate what success really means – you are accountable only to yourself and not to the rest of the world (unless you decide otherwise, and I’ll talk about in another post).

When I really thought this through it began to lift a huge WEIGHT off my shoulders. I mean, think about it. You get to define what your success really means. You hold yourself accountable.

So what does that mean?

It means you’ll never get anywhere if you keep on thinking like 99% of the people in this world.

It means that if you want to achieve something you have to define what that something is!

Most people go through life without that definition. They dream that one day they’ll have that fancy car, that massive house, that celebrity status, those untold riches and everyone will live happily ever after.

And, of course, it doesn’t come true. Simply because they haven’t defined what success, for them, really is.

So they don’t know how to get there.

Makes sense?

Here’s what I want you to do.

Think long and hard about what you really want out of life. Don’t be glib about this, don’t just say ‘I want to be rich’.

If being rich is the most important thing then think about how rich you would like to be. Name a figure. Better still, name a monthly income.

Then write that down on a piece of paper and stick it somewhere where you will see it every day. And start working out what you’re going to do to get there.

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And don’t get depressed – success is only a few steps away.

About the Author Peter Comeau